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<!--Generated by Squarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.166 (http://www.squarespace.com) on Wed, 19 Jun 2013 02:12:39 GMT--><rss xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><title>Barb's Blog</title><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/</link><description></description><lastBuildDate>Fri, 31 May 2013 18:28:20 +0000</lastBuildDate><copyright></copyright><language>en-US</language><generator>Squarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.166 (http://www.squarespace.com)</generator><item><title>Weeding My Garden,</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 31 May 2013 18:21:19 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2013/5/31/weeding-my-garden.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:33837523</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">I knelt last week in my yard, trying to dig and pull out the unwanted grass that literally lined the inside of a narrow flower bed, separated from the lawn in our backyard by a flagstone border.&nbsp; Why wasn&rsquo;t that grass on the outside of the border rather than on the inside &ndash; in with all the rest of the grass where it was supposed to be&hellip;.then I wouldn&rsquo;t have to pull or dig it out?&nbsp; It was hard work, sometimes kneeling, sometimes bending, sometimes pulling and all the time realizing that if it didn&rsquo;t come out, the garden would look ugly and untended the rest of the summer and perhaps more significant was the fact that the unwanted grass and weeds would continue to grow and expand and infringe upon the space needed for the flowers to thrive. &nbsp;There was no easy, quick fix&hellip;it took hard work and persistence.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">That same day I pulled numerous weeds and raked up dried debris leftover from the winter from a side-yard-garden for which Ken had already purchased rose bushes to plant.&nbsp;&nbsp; I had a lot of time to think that day.&nbsp; Pulling weeds, raking dead leaves, digging out unwanted grass does not engage the mind too heavily!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">I began to ponder my life and the weeds therein and the similarities involved in the process of extracting said weeds from my life as those in my garden.&nbsp; Interesting ponderables!&nbsp; Getting rid of those areas in our lives that are unbecoming and infringing upon health do not happen easily or quickly.&nbsp; There are very few &lsquo;quick fixes;&rsquo; however, God does give us instructions how to proceed --- nowhere does He say it is okay to be passive or ignore those areas that need attention&hellip;to just let them go and grow.&nbsp; Listen to these words from Hebrews 12 &ndash; &ldquo;let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.&nbsp; Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him, endured the cross, scorning its shame and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.&nbsp; Consider Him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.&rdquo;&nbsp; We must make choices to dig out, pull, tug, let go of, throw off and get rid of those things that hold us back from following Him and His plan for us &ndash; that hinder Kingdom work.&nbsp; The Hebrews passage clearly tells us that letting those things stay untended in our lives will cause entanglement and hinder us from running the race that He has marked out for us&hellip;it is our race&hellip;He has marked the course&hellip;He is the starter&hellip;we must do our part, and He will strengthen us for the journey, He will encourage us along the way, He will guide us across the finish line.&rdquo;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">Considering Him for me involves what I choose to spend my time thinking about.&nbsp; The verses in Philippians 4 have recently been engaging my mind..."Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things."</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">May we keep our eyes focused on Him as we consider Him and all that He endured for us to make it possible for us to finish &ndash; and finish well the race marked out for us!</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-33837523.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Barb’s Blog, “From the Inside Out” 4.9.13</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 09 Apr 2013 14:22:49 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2013/4/9/barbs-blog-from-the-inside-out-4913.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:33272784</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">Sometimes one gets weary &ndash; and weariness is a difficult thing to write about.&nbsp; Weariness is more than being tired and in need of a good night&rsquo;s sleep.&nbsp; Weariness is being in need of renewal, refreshment, rejuvenating.&nbsp; I have been reminded numerous times of the need to be renewed.&nbsp; What does renewal look like?&nbsp; And --- where does it come from?&nbsp;&nbsp; Is renewal external or internal?&nbsp; Does a good meal, perhaps a nap, a fun movie help?&nbsp; Perhaps a walk or a run or a drive?&nbsp; Listening to some really good music?&nbsp; Maybe a shopping trip or coffee with a good friend or sitting down with a good book?&nbsp; While these things may help to a greater or lesser degree &ndash; depending upon an individual&rsquo;s preferences &ndash; are they really enough?&nbsp; What does it take to begin the process of renewal?&nbsp; When life gets incredibly heavy and you feel depleted, there are, of course, a variety of ways to fill up an empty bucket.&nbsp; However, if the filling does not at least include some means of internal filling, the bucket will be &lsquo;leaky!&rsquo;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">Psalm 23 is a favorite of many.&nbsp; Usually we think of Psalm 23 when we are planning a funeral or memorial service, and certainly it is appropriate in that setting &ndash; &ldquo;Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.&rdquo;&nbsp; He is indeed the One who brings comfort &ndash; and He understands the valley through which we travel.&nbsp; But &hellip; go back to the verses above&hellip; &ldquo;The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.&nbsp; He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, <em>He</em> <em>restores my soul</em>.&rdquo;&nbsp; Yes, when we come to verse 3 of Psalm 23, we read this phrase &ndash; &ldquo;He restores my soul.&rdquo;&nbsp; That recently has been revelatory to me as I ponder and understand that my soul really only receives filling when a loving God, a very loving Shepherd, fills up that empty soul.&nbsp; No matter how many naps we take; no matter the coffees we have with friends; no matter the funny movies; no matter the books; no matter the music &ndash; <em>unless</em> He is the restorer of our soul, we will not be truly restored.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">I&rsquo;ve given a lot of thought to how that might happen.&nbsp;&nbsp; Restoring my soul happens for me when I take time &hellip; time to think, time to pray, time to refresh, time to allow the One who knows me, really knows me, knows my depletion, knows my burdens, knows what I need &hellip; knows my need for restoration, to begin the restoration process from the inside out!&nbsp; This kind of inside-out-renewing takes time &ndash; it cannot be rushed!&nbsp; It is easy to think &ndash; well, I had a day off&hellip;.I took a nap&hellip;.I had a good conversation about &lsquo;that&rsquo;&hellip;I should be better.&nbsp; In fact, there may be a temporary sense of re-energy; however, soon the weariness in one&rsquo;s bones returns and it is apparent that renewal is still needed.&nbsp; God knows what we need; He knows the time table; He is the restorer.&nbsp; It is also important to realize that I may be renewed in my soul and still be bone-weary&hellip;.those are two separate things.&nbsp; &ldquo;Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.&nbsp; Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.&nbsp; For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.&rdquo;&nbsp; It is from Him we learn; it is through Him we are restored; He understands.&nbsp; &ldquo;Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.&nbsp; Are you not much more valuable than they?&rdquo;&nbsp; He loves us!&nbsp;&nbsp; He knows!&nbsp; He is able!&nbsp; He is enough!</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">&nbsp;</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-33272784.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Yet Another New Beginning</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:22:55 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2013/1/16/yet-another-new-beginning.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:32563237</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">As you look backward and do a little history taking from last year (2012), the &lsquo;new beginnings&rsquo; you experienced perhaps were not what you might have expected or wished for or desired.&nbsp; Some of you have gone through immeasurable losses this past year &ndash; of loved ones or finances or employment or relationships.&nbsp; Your &lsquo;look back&rsquo; through 2012, is a mixed bag.&nbsp; In fact, you may even be saying &lsquo;where was God through &hellip;&hellip;&rdquo;&nbsp; (You fill in your blank!)&nbsp; As I declare again that God is a God of new beginnings,&nbsp; I think in the midst of life&rsquo;s disappointments and difficult times, it is important to remind ourselves of some things we DO know:</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">God is good<br />He is God<br />He is ever faithful<br /><em>even when </em>the healing does not come &ndash; and everything around us seems to fall apart!&nbsp; He is still God and good and faithful and remained with us throughout <em>all</em> of 2012 &ndash; not just through those times when &lsquo;life seemed good&rsquo; and we prospered &ndash; in relationships and finances and employment and family!&nbsp; -- God is indeed a God of new beginnings &ndash; and here we are in 2013!&nbsp; I wonder what &lsquo;new beginnings&rsquo; He has for you or for me?&nbsp; Because God is a God of grace and mercy, He understands my heart and my hurts and my needs.&nbsp; If you are like me, you hope for a good 2013 --- health for you and your family, joy in your heart, opportunities to reach out to people in need, the privilege of work and providing for your needs and those of your family.&nbsp; And &hellip; those things are all relatively important; however, I wonder if there is something more important that may involve a little &lsquo;self, heart surgery!&rsquo;&nbsp; If we could do a pro-active surgery on ourselves, on our own heart and if we were willing to be really honest with ourselves, evaluating what we need to do or allow God to change within us to become more the woman or man God intends for us to be in 2013 &ndash; what might those things be that need looking at &ndash; and perhaps changing? Would there be old habits that need to be gotten rid of?&nbsp; We hear talk around us of our &lsquo;bucket list&rsquo;&hellip;.what if we had a &ldquo;God, change me &hellip;.&rdquo; Bucket list?&nbsp; &ldquo;God is indeed a God of new beginnings&hellip;&rdquo; New year; new beginning.&nbsp; Right?&nbsp; There are many things that begin anew in a new year &ndash; new taxes, new calendar, new semester in school, new weight loss program, new resolutions, new classes, opportunity for a fresh start.&nbsp; It&rsquo;s the time of year we begin thinking of cleaning house &ndash; out with the old; in with the new.&nbsp; It is into this New Year (2013) that Jesus comes, loving us and wanting to form us more into His own image.&nbsp; He lovingly gives us opportunity to listen above any other to His own voice &hellip; &ldquo;My sheep hear My voice and they know Me&rdquo; (from John 10).&nbsp; Jesus comes to make all things new &hellip; not to take us out of our difficulties and joblessness and pain and suffering &hellip; but in the midst of those things that are STILL happening in our lives, to give us a new beginning WHILE in the midst of it all.&nbsp; He wants to give us fresh eyes, an alternative perspective in our recognition that He is with us; that He will never leave us nor forsake us; that &ldquo;In this world you WILL have suffering; but be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world.&rdquo;&nbsp; He wants us to understand that He is a redeeming God and can bring wholeness and newness out of broken pieces.&nbsp; I definitely don&rsquo;t have it all figured out.&nbsp; I struggle, too.&nbsp; I deal with disappointments as well.&nbsp; I definitely don&rsquo;t always understand God&rsquo;s ways.&nbsp; I hurt like you, but I am confident of this -- &ldquo;The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies are new every morning, Great is His faithfulness.&rdquo;&nbsp; God is a God of new beginnings &ndash;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">What is on your &ldquo;God Change Me Bucket List?&rdquo;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-32563237.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>“Dealing With Evil and Believing in God’s Goodness and His Provision”</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2012 15:25:25 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2012/10/23/dealing-with-evil-and-believing-in-gods-goodness-and-his-pro.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:30031623</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">I have felt assaulted by evil these past few weeks.&nbsp; As I grapple with the incredible sadness of a little girl who was kidnapped and dismembered and know the sadness of our grandson who was a classmate of hers, I have not only struggled with my own emotions of sadness and anger and bewilderment, I have had to come face to face (as have many of you) with the turmoil of the unthinkable.&nbsp; On the one hand, I know and serve a loving God who is good and just and sovereign and holy.&nbsp; I know He could have stopped the perpetrator from carrying out this senseless, horrible act&hellip;I know He could have protected this little ten-year-old girl who was just doing normal kid stuff &ndash; on her way to meet up with a friend to walk the short distance to school.&nbsp; Yet she never made it &ndash; either to meet the friend or to get to school.&nbsp; I know God loved her; I know He loves her family; I know He is good; I know He cares.&nbsp; All of those things I know.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">The news is full of pain as are our lives &ndash; a young woman Starbuck&rsquo;s barista kidnapped and murdered and a neighbor arrested, leaving a young husband to weep and mourn and not understand.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">A father &ndash; a kind, loving, godly man &ndash; dying of cancer.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">A woman, rejected years earlier by her Mother, tired of the struggles of this life on a daily basis, chose to take matters into her own hands, ending her life.&nbsp; Hers is an ending of incongruities &ndash; wanting no more pain in this life and yet assured of the hope of Heaven and being with Jesus and with her Grandma!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">I know that I can&rsquo;t explain why or fix the pain or answer the questions.&nbsp; Jesus said &ldquo;in this world you WILL have tribulation, but be of good cheer&hellip;I have overcome the world.&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp; &ldquo;God, how can I be of good cheer when faced with something so terrible?&nbsp; How can I answer those who have asked the question &ndash; God could have protected her; why didn&rsquo;t He?&rdquo;&nbsp; In such a time as this, I must deal with the deeper questions of the emotions of pain and suffering, but I also must focus on what I DO know.&nbsp; I know that we have an enemy of our souls who tries to rob us of hope and joy and peace.&nbsp; I know that until that time when God makes everything all right, we will struggle and suffer.&nbsp; I know that Satan is a liar and an accuser.&nbsp; I know that God is true and a Redeemer and is a Righteous God who one day will take away all pain and suffering and erase the hurt from our hearts and wipe away the tears from our eyes.&nbsp; I know that little 10-year-old girl is in Heaven with Jesus and enjoying a life that we can now &lsquo;only imagine.&rsquo;&nbsp; I know that He promises to walk with us through the valley of suffering.&nbsp; I have confidence that what He promises, He will do &ndash; He will never leave us nor forsake us.&nbsp; I know that Greater (far greater) is He who is in us than he who is in the world)!&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">If you are in the valley of suffering as you read this post and are hurting or angry or confused or pondering, know that all of those emotions are valid.&nbsp; Know that God loves you.&nbsp; Know that He one day will bring justice and peace.&nbsp; Know that He promises peace in the midst of your storm, and He invites you to come to Him now.&nbsp; &ldquo;In this world you WILL have tribulation, but be of good cheer&hellip;I HAVE overcome the world.&rdquo;&nbsp; The good cheer involves hope and it involves peace and it makes sense&nbsp;out of what otherwise seems senseless.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">God loves you (and me).&nbsp; This I KNOW!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">&nbsp;</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-30031623.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>The Art of Juggling</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 08 Oct 2012 14:29:23 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2012/10/8/the-art-of-juggling.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:29729574</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">Wikipedia gives a great explanation of the art of juggling.&nbsp; Juggling is a skill involving moving objects for entertainment or sport. The most recognizable form of juggling is 'toss juggling,' in which the juggler throws objects up to catch and toss up again. This may be one object or many at the same time with one or many hands. The term may also be used metaphorically, like multi- tasking, to mean constantly refocusing attention among responsibilities.&nbsp; There is even a World Juggling Day - created as an annual recognition for the hobby. More than you ever wanted to know about the &lsquo;sport&rsquo; of juggling, I know!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">I&rsquo;ve been thinking a lot about juggling lately, though perhaps in ways different than one might expect. Oh certainly there are the typical too many tasks...too many ministries...too many people to care for...too many funerals... But what I find I am juggling most is a plethora of emotions, and I am trying to juggle them wisely - in a way that is authentic and honoring to God, without dropping one into that emotional abyss called denial.&nbsp;That's the 'kicker!'&nbsp; Sound familiar?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">'Toss juggling' when it comes to dealing with these emotions sounds pretty intriguing to me; however I think I'd like to 'toss' with a twist!!&nbsp; Throw all these emotions up in the air and just let them land where they will-- not necessarily catching them or controlling them or containing them ... just letting them be what they are.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; If I (or you) did that, let all emotions just kind of hang out there, we could be&nbsp;accused of immaturity or irresponsiblity or even childishness, and we would certainly not be exercising self control. So unfortunately what so often happens in our attempts to avoid that extreme, we go to the other&nbsp;and stuff our emotions,&nbsp;unwilling to experience the pain of coming face to face with our hurt or anger or sadness or grief.&nbsp; The process of stuffing those emotions can take on a life of its own and we no longer know what we are feeling or how to deal with whatever comes to us.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">Think of all the balls you are juggling this very day. Work, spiritual life, family, friends, chores... What rises to the top of the pile?&nbsp; And of equal importance - what causes that to be on top?&nbsp; Perhaps you need to let some of your balls fall to the ground (or at least to the side) as you prioritize.&nbsp; And as you think about prioritizing, take a look at what criteria&nbsp; you use in the process?&nbsp; Talking with a friend can help.&nbsp; Reading a book on the subject of dealing with emotions or setting boundaries can be beneficial.&nbsp;&nbsp; Journaling sometimes works.&nbsp; Making sure you have &lsquo;margin&rsquo; in your life is important.&nbsp; However, perhaps over and above all these other methods, these words from Matthew 6 might help the most ---"Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.&rdquo;&nbsp; Go to God first; allow Him to direct your path and show you what is on His heart and what is His plan for you right now and next week and next month and in the future!&nbsp;We can do all things through Him who gives us strength &ndash; without Him we can do nothing!&nbsp; Take your frustrations and grief and sadness and pain to Him &ndash; He is the burden-bearer!</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;">&nbsp;</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-29729574.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Listening to His Voice – or Our Own?</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 13 Sep 2012 22:08:58 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2012/9/13/listening-to-his-voice-or-our-own.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:28831569</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I<span style="font-size: 110%;"> have had some recent experiences that remind me of the need and the call to listen to God&rsquo;s still small voice, but I have to admit at times it is difficult to distinguish His voice from my own &ndash; or from others around me.&nbsp; In the mix and the midst of all of this noise and confusion, the enemy tells me that if I were really in tune with God, I would be able to &lsquo;tune out&rsquo; all those other noises and hear His voice above any other.&nbsp; Does it make sense to you that sometimes our own voice &lsquo;sounds&rsquo; more spiritual than the voice of God?&nbsp; Or --- that our Christian friends&rsquo; voices sometimes are the &lsquo;spiritual sounding&rsquo; ones &ndash; with God coming in a distant second?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">When can we hear God&rsquo;s voice and what does it sound like?&nbsp; What does it take to hear Him?&nbsp; Our hearing from God is certainly not just at those times when all is quiet &lsquo;on the western front,&rsquo; when we have had a long, peace-filled quiet time with Him, when things are going well for us and our loved ones, when we are experiencing fulfillment and success and satisfaction.&nbsp; Nor is it necessarily at those times when things around us are falling apart&hellip; and in desperation we long for and listen to God&rsquo;s voice. &nbsp;Sometimes, it&rsquo;s just in the mundane!&nbsp; Looking at Psalm 46, we are told to &lsquo;be still and know that He is God,&rsquo; and this following a Psalm that looks at tumultuous times around us, in times of trouble when our world is shaken and everything around us seems uncertain.&nbsp; Because God knows us literally inside and out and loves us perfectly and unconditionally, then He knows our language and exactly what we need, just the right thing to say to us.&nbsp; Listen to these phrases:&nbsp; &ldquo;The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit&rdquo; &ndash; Psalm 34. &nbsp;&nbsp;(He does not tell us <em>not</em> to be brokenhearted, nor does He try to <em>rebuke</em> us when we feel crushed in spirit).&nbsp; &ldquo;I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.&rdquo; &ndash; Psalm 32.&nbsp;&nbsp; Also, from Psalm 32, &ldquo;You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.&rdquo;&nbsp; In Proverbs He gives us yet another opportunity to hear from Him &ndash; &ldquo;Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.&rdquo;&nbsp; &ldquo;We wait in hope for the Lord; He is our help and our shield.&rdquo; &ndash; Psalm 33.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Listening, learning to <em>really</em> listen is an acquired skill. Often, in fact very often, if we are really honest with ourselves, we find that we do not concentrate on the skill of listening &ndash; to others or to God.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Here are a few questions to test yourself on your listening skills:</span></p>
<ul>
<li><span style="font-size: 110%;">&Oslash; Do you practice ignoring the distractions around you, putting what you have been doing out of sight and out of mind?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 110%;">&Oslash; Do you encourage others to talk and really be interested in what they have to say?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 110%;">&Oslash; Do you let the other person finish a sentence before jumping in?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 110%;">&Oslash; Do you try to understand the meaning behind the words?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 110%;">&Oslash; Do you listen even though you can anticipate the next word?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 110%;">&Oslash; Do you give your full attention to the one communicating?</span></li>
</ul>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">So&hellip;granted, this little quiz can easily be applied to person-to-person relationships.&nbsp; I submit to you that it is also important to think of our person-to-God relationship, which deserves far more of our attention than we are usually willing to give.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&ldquo;My sheep hear my voice, and they know me?&rdquo;&nbsp; Are you His sheep?&nbsp; Do you listen for His voice?</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-28831569.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>May the God of Hope Fill You...</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 11 Jul 2012 21:39:52 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2012/7/11/may-the-god-of-hope-fill-you.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:17982820</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">I wrote this blog post prior to the horrific events of last week-end.  How timely to focus on the God of hope - in what <em>could </em>seem like a hopeless situation.In the midst of such craziness I would ask you to – “Consider Him, who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (from Hebrews 12)  In our own strength and our own day-to-day lives I do not believe it possible to be hopeful.<br /></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">Our world sometimes feels hopeless and upside down – filled with pain and suffering.  Sickness, suffering, poverty.  In Colorado – there have been shootings, lives lost, many critically wounded, fires, homes burned to the ground; in other parts of our country – flooding, power outages; in other parts of our world – hunger and starvation, wars, and rioting.  Political advertisements assail us on every front – regardless of your particular persuasion.  How do we possibly endure – and more than endure – but <em>survive and thrive</em> in our troubled world today?  How do we get up in the morning, day after day, some of us in difficult employment situations and a precarious economy, some of us in difficult family/marriage situations, some of us with a new life-shattering diagnosis, unsure what our future holds. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;"><em>Life is hard</em>!  And yet Scripture tells us that <em>God is the God of Hope</em>.  Those two things are absolutely true – and co-exist together in the life of the one who calls themselves a Christ follower.  But – how does this fit?  We might need a paradigm shift--- from suffering being an enemy to suffering producing growth; from tidy to untidy; from a sense of resolved to unresolved – ministry with and to and for people is untidy, often unresolved and messy.  How do we rely on the promise of hope and a God of hope?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">Romans 8:22…”We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time.  Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the first fruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies.  For in this hope we were saved.  But hope that is seen is no hope at all.   Who hopes for what he already has?  But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.  In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.”</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">We must recognize that the hope for those around us is the same hope as for us .. our hope and their hope is that God is who He claims to be, no matter the life circumstances.  In fact, our friend, George Sanchez (former Navigator staff - now in Heaven with Florine) used to say of Hebrews 11:6 – “God is who He claims to be and will do what He promises He will do.”</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">We have to remember that we have an enemy of our souls who is the accuser and confuser, and anytime a situation seems hopeless, that is a red flag, one which we do NOT have to grab hold of – God is a God of hope – He is the God of all Hope! </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">Listen to parts of Psalm 71 –</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">          “O Lord, I have come to you for protection; don’t let me be disgraced….Turn your ear to listen to me, and set me free….Be my rock of safety….My God, rescue me….O Lord, you alone are my hope….”</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 130%;">He is our hope….in the midst of good times and bad, whether we are happy or sad, whether we have plenty or are lacking, whether we are in a time of suffering or smooth sailing….He is our hope – From Hebrews 12:  “Consider Him, who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” Really consider Him – ponder who He is and what He has done and continues to do.  He understands; He <em>gets</em> your pain and suffering; He will never leave you nor forsake you….Consider Him!</span></p>
<p>﻿</p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-17982820.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>The Model of Healing and Newness from God - the Perfect Forgiver</title><category>.</category><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 01 Jun 2012 20:21:39 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2012/6/1/the-model-of-healing-and-newness-from-god-the-perfect-forgiv.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:16527893</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">I love early summer &ndash; the beauty of flowers, green grass, the brightness of sunshine, longer days, shorter nights. Bbq&rsquo;s, picnics, time on the deck.&nbsp; And --- when I think of all these bright, fun, beautiful images &ndash; I find myself reflecting on the Giver of Life and newness and healing and cleanness (is that a word &ndash; cleanness?) &ndash; AND &ndash; what is it that keeps us from experiencing all of the above!&nbsp; I then ponder forgiveness and the Forgiver &ndash; the picture of Perfect Forgiveness from the Perfect Forgiver.&nbsp; How often does forgiveness become a stumbling block for us &ndash; either we do not &lsquo;feel&rsquo; forgiven &ndash; or we are unwilling to forgive those whom we perceive as having &lsquo;wronged us.&rsquo;&nbsp; So &ndash; we do not avail ourselves of all this beauty and newness!&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">The absolute truth is &ndash; forgive is available for us.&nbsp; Jesus forgives us &ndash; that is the story of an empty cross and an empty tomb; however, we often are not as quick to forgive ourselves or others.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;<strong>&ldquo;If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.&rdquo;</strong>&nbsp; Wrapped up in the subject of forgiveness is our ongoing struggle with shame, guilt, and God&rsquo;s grace.&nbsp; Often we do not understand the declaration from the Book of Romans &ndash; <strong>&ldquo;There is therefore now NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.</strong>&rdquo;&nbsp; We condemn ourselves or others when God does neither.&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">There are beautiful word pictures in the Old Testament of forgiveness.&nbsp; Joseph, whom his brothers had sold into slavery, was able to declare to them in a spirit of forgiveness and reconciliation <strong>&ndash; &ldquo;</strong><strong>And now, do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves for selling me here, because it was to save lives that God sent me ahead of you.&rdquo;&nbsp; </strong>&nbsp;And then when he was reunited with his estranged brother Esau, Jacob declared, <strong>&ldquo;For to see your face is like seeing the face of God, now that you have received me favorably.&rdquo;</strong>&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">According to Webster, forgiveness means &ldquo;to cease to feel resentment against an offender; to give up resentment of or claim to requital for an insult or injury; to grant relief from a payment due on a debt.&rdquo;&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Consider the definition again:&nbsp; To cease to feel resentment&hellip;.Against an offender&hellip;.To give up resentment or claim&hellip;.For an injury&hellip;.To grant relief&hellip;.From a payment due on a debt. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Choices matter!&nbsp; Our choices matter!&nbsp; And God gives us opportunity to choose to cease to resent another &ndash; a conscious choice!&nbsp; From Hebrews we are reminded:&nbsp; <strong>&ldquo;See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.&rdquo;</strong>&nbsp; Bitterness defiles many &ndash; and the bitterness begins in our own heart.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">In other words, forgiveness means to choose to willingly give up one&rsquo;s legitimate rights for repayment &ndash; and one&rsquo;s tools of punishment &ndash; both now and in the future.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">A few lies people believe about forgiveness that keeps forgiveness at bay:</span></p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;I&rsquo;ll just ignore the hurt and bitterness, and eventually it will go away.&nbsp; When it doesn&rsquo;t hurt anymore, it&rsquo;ll be easier to forgive.&rdquo;</strong></p>
<p><strong>&ldquo;If I can get even, then I&rsquo;ll feel better.&nbsp; Maybe then I&rsquo;ll be able to forgive.&rdquo;</strong></p>
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<p><strong>&ldquo;They need to admit they were wrong.&nbsp; I&rsquo;ll forgive when and if they ask for forgiveness.&rdquo;</strong><span style="font-size: 110%;"> <br /></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Isn&rsquo;t it amazing that we actually choose to &lsquo;nurse a grudge&rsquo; and remain bound and critical and miserable rather than allow God to help us forgive and be forgiven?&nbsp; But even more amazing is the opportunity we have to ask for forgiveness and then to actually forgive!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Why must we forgive? ---<br /></span></p>
<p><strong>To be free.</strong></p>
<p><strong>To break the cycle.</strong></p>
<p><strong>To begin the process of healing.</strong></p>
<p><strong>To receive his &lsquo;cleanness!&rsquo;</strong></p>
<p><strong>Because God commands it &ndash; see I John 1:9 at the beginning of this article.</strong></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">What a perfect week to ponder forgiveness.&nbsp; The first week of June &ndash; the promise of summer &ndash; the opportunity for newness.&nbsp; Whether you are the forgiven or the forgiver (probably both) &ndash; newness, freedom, cleanness await you.&nbsp; Forgive &ndash; and be forgiven!</span></p>
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<p>Praise and Worship; Meditation in Worship; Prayer and Worship; Music and Worship; but Caring and Worship?&nbsp; What could possibly tie Caring and Worship together?&nbsp; For those who know the one true God&hellip;worship is what we do and who we are.&nbsp; Wait a minute, though &ndash; if worship is what we do and who we are&nbsp; -&nbsp; then the doing and the being are integrally involved with our condition &nbsp;&hellip; how we are, who we are, what our needs are.</p>
<p>Is it possible that in our worshipping we are not only being formed and transformed but in the transforming being cared for as well?</p>
<p>Let&rsquo;s look at a few of the things that may be impacted when we worship &ndash; when we concentrate on who God really is &ndash; as Sovereign Lord, King of Kings and Lord of Lords, the Comforter, the Provider, the Keeper of our souls, the Worthy One, the One who has promised to never leave us nor forsake us.</p>
<p>In Psalm 27 <strong>the Lord addresses our fears:</strong></p>
<p>&ldquo;The Lord is my light and my salvation &ndash; whom shall I fear?&nbsp; The Lord is the stronghold of my life &ndash; of whom shall I be afraid?&nbsp; When evil men advance against me to devour my flesh, when my enemies and my foes attack me, they will stumble and fall. Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear. Though war break out against me, even then will I be confident.&rdquo;&nbsp; These fears are extraneous &ndash; my confidence and my solution in the midst of adversaries, difficulties and struggles rests in the One who is worthy of my worship and praise.&nbsp; In this Psalm, God gives implicit assurance of His presence. &nbsp;When we seek Him in Worship, He promises that we will find Him &ndash; One thing I ask of the Lord, this is what I seek;&nbsp; That I may dwell in the house of the Lord and to seek him in his temple</p>
<p><strong>He promises safety in times of trouble:</strong></p>
<p>For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling, He will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle and set me high upon a rock.&nbsp; He lifts me up when I am struggling with those around me: Then my head will be exalted above the enemies who surround me; At his tabernacle will I sacrifice with shouts of joy; I will sing and make music to the Lord.&nbsp; My heart says of you, Seek his face!&nbsp; Your face, Lord, I will seek.</p>
<p><strong>When I feel alone: </strong></p>
<p>I need not hide my face from Him.&nbsp; He will not turn His servant away in anger;&nbsp; He has been my helper.&nbsp; Do not reject me or forsake me, O God my Savior.&nbsp; Though my father and mother forsake me,</p>
<p>He welcomes me into His presence with arms open wide.&nbsp; The Lord will receive me.&nbsp; Teach me your way, O Lord; lead me in a straight path because of my oppressors.&nbsp; I am still confident of this; I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.&nbsp; Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.</p>
<p>In Psalm 34 <strong>I learn how to worship and discover that He hears me:</strong></p>
<p>I will extol the Lord at all times.&nbsp; His praise will always be on my lips.&nbsp; My soul will boast in the Lord; Let the afflicted hear and rejoice.&nbsp; Glorify the Lord with me, Let us exalt His name together.&nbsp; He delivers me from fear and shame.&nbsp; &nbsp;I sought the Lord, and he answered me; He delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant; Their faces are never covered with shame.&nbsp; This poor man called, and the Lord heard him; He saved him out of all his troubles</p>
<p><strong>He brings deliverance:</strong></p>
<p>The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him; And he delivers them. He is a place of safety and goodness and refuge. Taste and see that the Lord is good; Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him.&nbsp; Fear the Lord you his saints, for those who fear him lack nothing.&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>He keeps me from evil:</strong></p>
<p>Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.&nbsp; Turn from evil and do good; Seek peace and pursue it. The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; He delivers them from all their troubles.</p>
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<p><strong>He is close to all the brokenhearted:</strong></p>
<p>The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.&nbsp; A righteous man may have many troubles, But the Lord delivers him from them all; He protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken.</p>
<p><strong>The Lord redeems:</strong></p>
<p>No one will be condemned who takes refuge in him.&nbsp; In Psalm 46 He <strong>keeps us</strong> <strong>through calamity:</strong>&nbsp; God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.&nbsp; Therefore, we will not fear, though the earth give way And the mountains fall into the heart of the sea - Though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.</p>
<p><strong>His is a place of peace:</strong></p>
<p>There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, The holy place where the Most High dwells. God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.&nbsp; The Lord Almighty is with us; The God of Jacob is our fortress. Come see the works of the Lord, The desolations he has brought on the earth. He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth, He breaks the bow and shatters the spear, He burns the shields with fire.&nbsp; Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.&nbsp; The Lord Almighty is with us; The God of Jacob is our fortress.</p>
<p>Deliverance from fears; safety in trouble; companionship when I am lonely; deliverance from evil; His presence when I am brokenhearted; redemption; peace He is the loving God, the provider of all that I need and He is worthy of all my worship and praise!</p>
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<p>﻿</p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-15546681.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>The Pain – Emotional and Spiritual – of Terminal Illness</title><dc:creator>Barb Roberts</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:02:14 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/2012/2/8/the-pain-emotional-and-spiritual-of-terminal-illness.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">624765:7265219:14937980</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Part of living is coming to grips with death &ndash; our own and those around us.&nbsp; I am in the unique, privileged position of walking beside those who are dying, along with their family and friends.&nbsp; Sometimes I do not become involved until receiving a call from a family member or close friend asking for help in planning a funeral.&nbsp; However, there are many times I am indeed privileged to walk with the patient and their loved ones through the dying process.&nbsp; I have recently spent time with a very courageous couple who are daily facing her impending death, and doing so with grace, dignity, pain, suffering, humor, faith, and hope.&nbsp; I watch him care for her with tenderness, and I&rsquo;m sure behind-the-scenes grief and frustration.&nbsp; I watch her exhibit the grace to receive in the midst of her failing health. &nbsp;&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">I am reminded of the passage in II Corinthians that describes them so well:</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&ldquo;Therefore we do not lose heart.&nbsp; Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.&nbsp; For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.&nbsp; So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen.&nbsp; For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.&rdquo;&nbsp; Part of the pain of dying is the wasting away of our bodies, and this passage reminds us of the hope of Heaven, the promise of renewal and the confidence of eternity.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Often we shy away from discussing the practical, &lsquo;nitty gritty&rsquo; pieces of the dying process.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">Here are a few &lsquo;special problems&rsquo; the family and patient may have to deal with:</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Progressive physical decline - and the emotions that are integral.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Numerous remissions and relapses and the psychological reactions that arise with </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; each.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Long periods of uncertainty and fear and pain.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Dilemmas about treatment choices.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Intensive treatment regimens and their side effects.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Pre and post-treatment anxiety.&nbsp; (What next?&nbsp; Or...knowing what to expect and </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; dreading it!)</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Lengthened periods of anticipatory grief (the continual ups and downs - the emotional </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; roller-coaster ride for patient and family.)</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Increased financial, spiritual, social, physical, and emotional pressures.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Choices surrounding hospice care.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; Loneliness, for both the patient facing this final journey and for the family anticipating&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; separation.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; The need to be able to talk and to be assured that someone will listen to your story, </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; whether you are the patient or the family or friends.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&gt;&nbsp; End-of-life issues, such as family discussions about discontinuance of life support.&nbsp; </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Special note:&nbsp; If a family has never openly discussed these issues, their trauma will be</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; multiplied and amplified.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">We can only imagine what awaits us.&nbsp; May God grant us the privilege of &lsquo;imagining with others&rsquo; what lies ahead and being used by Him during this final journey.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 110%;">*For more on ministering during the final journey, I invite you to look at blog posts - August 30, 2010 - and August 23, 2010.</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.barbroberts.com/blog/rss-comments-entry-14937980.xml</wfw:commentRss></item></channel></rss>